Triggers & Healing Your Bloodline

Blaire Stanislao: 0:01

Hello, this is Blair Stanislao with the Happy Lion Center. Welcome to our podcast, mystical and Infamous, where we have playful and easy conversations about anything mystical, getting to the heart of all things, strange and weird. Join us in a bit of magical tomfoolery, spreading the alchemy of love and link, and now we invite you to enjoy the show. Oh, you're into astrology? You should go look at the stars before you pick a date. And I'm like, "ugh, that's too much work. You know, like you got to look at all these factors and then you got to evaluate it, for which one's more important, and whereas I could just go off feeling and you know, I'm not really I'm not into prediction Like I don't really find that helpful.

Blaire Stanislao: 0:49

Like, why do we want to know? Like it's kind of like that question where it's like, if you knew, if you knew how you were going to die, you know, I mean, they've made movies about this, right, if you knew how you were going to die, would you continue doing what you're doing, right? Well, I don't want to. Yeah, I don't want to know. I mean, you know you might have some factors where, like, for me it's like if I'm really frustrated or I'm having some sort of problem. I'll go look and see and I'll figure it out. And boom, it's like right there.

Anneliese Swingle: 1:18

Oh, that's why, okay, but I mean, that's literally what I do, because if I'm having issues that are coming up relationship issues or work issues or what kind I'm going to be like, what in the world is going on? That's cultivating this Then you can look at the stars and go oh.

Blaire Stanislao: 1:40

And then you see when it's over, right, you're like oh this is temporary, it'll be here, or maybe it's activating something in my chart that's causing a conflict. I told my daughter she's 14 and I guess she has never heard this but I was a teacher for 10 years, about 10 years and, lo and behold, there are times where the kids as a whole are just acting really crazy and we'll share things that are happening in class and so you'll have somebody say, oh, this thing happened, can you believe they did this? And then there's somebody else, and then eventually we're like what in the hell was going on? And then you go look at the moon and it's like, oh, there it is.

Anneliese Swingle: 2:24

There it is. I should have known. It's so funny when I talk to my clients specifically, what we're talking about right now is triggers, let's just say, and a person who is always pointing the finger at someone else going, can you believe she did this? I don't even believe this happened, but realistically, that trigger is put in place for you to look at, absolutely Right. So I share with my clients if they're having an issue with their spouse or whatever. You become best friends, right, you're intently working with this person for an hour straight. You don't want to count every rep, so you're trying to take their mind off of stuff. So they talk about whatever trigger they're experiencing and it's really interesting how some people react differently to hearing what a trigger really is, versus what they think it is and the way they interpret. Well, he needs to do a, b, c, d. And then I'm gonna be right and I'm like, and I'm not. How a trigger works, let's go into it. So then I'm going to share a story because this is so fascinating to you, to me anyway, and I'm going to use myself, because I love to use myself, because I have the best triggers and it's always my spouse.

Anneliese Swingle: 3:48

So, so funny, I have this weird thing about clutter around the house. Okay, I don't know why, I don't like piles of mail and magazines just all over the counter randomly. Who do I marry? A person that piles up all their mail and magazines and just crap everywhere, right? And so I'm like what in the world is it? We've had conversation after conversation. You know, can you just clean up? Can you just tidy up? I mean, I mean I can't even cook, right, because all of your stuff is all over the kitchen counter. So he's like, yeah, yeah, I'll get to it. Well, it got. We've been married now 11 years and this happened two years ago. I was so triggered that I just kept saying nothing and being quiet. I mean, I don't want to be a nag or all this. So I go to Florida, I go away for two weeks. I have this dream this is how my subconscious works and it takes me back to my childhood where we had a fire.

Blaire Stanislao: 4:58

I think I told you did. I tell you, yeah, I think so. Yeah, we did talk about this one. It's the best one.

Anneliese Swingle: 5:03

It's just the best one. So we had a kitchen fire because when I grew up, I was surrounded by parents who piled their mail on the countertops, magazines everywhere, and it was my responsibility to feed the cat. I didn't. And this is what's so funny. We put for what reason? The cat food right next to the stove. Don't ask me why. I'm a kid. I'm supposed to feed the cat. She's hungry. I didn't feed her. She tries to get into her cat food tips, the cat food over onto the burner, and back in the old days they were push button burners. Well, she stepped on the button, turned the burner on, caught the cat food on fire in the middle of the night, mind you. So she comes and wakes me up and I see flickering on the hallway, which was the flames. I go downstairs and our whole kitchen is engulfed in flames.

Anneliese Swingle: 6:03

Right then, and there it made me aware of this is what the trigger is about Safety and security. I do not feel safe or secure when they're as clutter in my house. So my husband and I go on this hike and I say I got to tell you this dream I had. And I tell him the whole thing. He's horrified for me, right? He's like, oh my God, I had no idea. And I said, well, neither did I. So since then he's been very cognizant of keeping his mail in hand, you know, in check, and all of his magazines. That's one of the beauties of a trigger, that's my favorite one, just because it's so blatantly obvious. Yeah, I mean, it was after the dream, but like I never could correlate, wow, what is the trigger really about? Why do I hate it so bad?

Blaire Stanislao: 6:59

It was all about safety and security. I've had two triggers this week. Oh good, I want to hear. So this is our talk. I love talking about triggers, okay, so let's see. The first one I'll say was it was gosh. It feels like yesterday I was in dealing with this.

Blaire Stanislao: 7:23

So we had a guest in our house which is part of family, which is fine, no problem, everything was good. He came into town to do something, but this is not somebody that either one of us really is really close with. Like, we haven't talked to him in years and years. I've never actually met him. So he comes, my husband is being the delightful host, so we have dinner together and that's all fine.

Blaire Stanislao: 7:50

I had had a long day, so usually after dinner I'd go upstairs and I'm going to take a bath or whatever I'm going to do, and my husband usually does other stuff, like he, I don't know, he works from the house or just whatever puts it around. So they did that. They were hanging out and they were having a drink and smoking cigars, which is what my husband likes to do. So first I was like, okay, whatever, I don't care, that's fine. I didn't know where. I thought that the guy was going to go to another house, but they had been drinking so I didn't actually cared when. That big of a deal. But I wasn't going to go back downstairs after I had had a bath and this strange person is in the house. So he had.

Blaire Stanislao: 8:34

My husband had been out there for a while and he came in one time and you could tell he was like a little bit agitated. I didn't know if it was because he was drinking or what, but whatever, not a big deal. He doesn't come back to bed until two o'clock in the morning. Now, this guy is like he's the perfect mix of going to like, having a routine for going to sleep and waking up. I mean, he's not like, he's not so regimented that I balk at it, but he's very consistent. So for him not to come in until two o'clock in the morning of course I had gone to sleep by then.

Blaire Stanislao: 9:06

I was like, whatever, I don't even want to get into this and he was so frustrated at two o'clock in the morning because this person who was visiting had had too much to drink, okay, and so basically he was lit like crazy, and the reason he came up is because the guy passed out and he was so frustrated. Okay, now we're you know, my husband's 50. I'm 46 and we're drinking until you pass out. Like this doesn't really seem like adult kind of thing, you know, at least not for me in my experience, and not that adults don't do that, but it's just not like this is not responsible behavior. Is what I'm saying, right? So for me I didn't realize that it really agitated me while I grew up in a house where my father was an alcoholic and my grandmother was an alcoholic and we live with both of them.

Blaire Stanislao: 9:56

Okay, and so the next day, so what happened was he fell down and my husband was so tired of it and ready to go to bed at two o'clock in the morning he was like, oh, you can just stay there. Now my husband has had experience with passing out. I've never passed out from drinking. But so he kind of knew and I'm thinking, oh, what if he's sometimes wrong with him? You know, is he an alcoholic or what's the deal? And anyway, he's at two o'clock in the morning and I didn't want to deal with it. So he was frustrated. I told him to quit talking, we went to sleep.

Blaire Stanislao: 10:24

I heard him later in the night, early in the morning. He was, you know, obviously I don't know, making things fall over, or he was falling over because I could hear him downstairs. And then my husband got up must have gotten up and checked on him. I thought that my husband said he was on the kitchen floor and I was thinking the kids are gonna get up and they're gonna find a man laying on the floor and I'm like I just don't like this. But it was. I was sleeping, so I didn't have too much energy to spend on that, and so he went down there and apparently the guy had knocked over a plant or something and so he cleaned that up.

Blaire Stanislao: 11:02

So by the time I got down there, dressed right, I didn't notice anything other than the dishes weren't done from the night before and there were like glasses out right, which was it's not what he likes to have the dishes done. So we do the dishes every night. We're not. We don't have a lot of time to talk about it. So he got up in the morning and he was like, hey, this is the kitchen door, but it wasn't really like on the outwards, like the kids didn't even know, like his. The guy was going out the door, my husband was taking him out the door and the kids were kind of coming in the kitchen and I tell his daughter I'm like your dad didn't come to bed until two o'clock and she's like, why not? You know, of course, then the conversation about the thing, and so I was agitated.

Blaire Stanislao: 11:44

And then I came home later that morning and I was like do you want me to do this laundry? And I was like shoving the laundry into the machine and I was thinking, well, I'm just shoving it in here because I don't want to bend over. You know, I'm just gonna. I throw it hard enough, I'll go in there. And he was like what's wrong? And I was like nothing, I'm just doing laundry. And he's like this is how I do laundry. He actually is like, no, what's wrong?

Blaire Stanislao: 12:09

And so eventually, I don't know, eventually it all came out that I was like, okay, I don't like that he was. I don't like the drunk in the house, I don't like. Because I had to change my behavior. If I went to go downstairs after taking a bath and pajamas and the snow, big deal right, but if there's some strange person in the house, I'm not gonna do that. So for me I still had to modify my behavior. The kids had to. They wanted to talk to him but they weren't going to because it was out there, and so we had to modify our behavior, which is what I remember from being a child is when somebody is a drunk or they are drunk, they're useful for nothing and they're kind of like more of a pain in the butt than anything else.

Blaire Stanislao: 12:46

And that was my life. It was like, oh, is it three o'clock? Well, my grandma was nicer, so I was like okay, well, I can use that drunk. Well, I said that one time and that was the end of that, because my mom was like you're not gonna use that drunk to go get an ice cream cone. Yeah, yeah. But that was my experience with it and I really. So I didn't like that, I didn't I don't know. All these feelings just kind of came back up and if my husband had not asked me, I would have recognized. I knew I would have liked it, but I wouldn't have recognized it. And so I actually recognized that it was a trigger and I'm texting my healer, I'm like this is what's happening. And then my other like give her a mentor, and they both say the same thing and it was like, basically, just sit with the feeling, which I did and it really didn't take very long, but I cried Right.

Blaire Stanislao: 13:35

Because it was like I was mad about the whole thing and then I was gone I mean, I think there's still some other things like a sunny to finish that but a huge part of it shifted and I wasn't angry anymore. I mean, I still ended up having a conversation with my kids about other stuff, so it's not like that was the only thing that was occurring, but that was a very clear trigger that it was like well, I don't really know why, because my husband didn't have those experiences with drinking ice, right, and so he was like well, what's the big deal? You know, it's a big deal. Yeah, to him it's like normal ops.

Anneliese Swingle: 14:10

I mean for him he didn't have, he didn't grow up that way. That's the beauty of being with a partner who can help you work through your triggers without them even knowing they're helping you. Like just him saying what's wrong made you go nothing. I do wonder like this on a daily basis, but in reality you're like I'm super pissed, yeah, and what I had to learn about triggers was when you deny that, you're mad. That's the definition of a trigger. Right, when you're frustrated, upset, angry, whatever. For me anyway, when I'm triggered nine times out of 10, I don't even know it, I'm just pissed off and it takes my partner to go. All right, I see that you're a little upset. I'm not upset, trigger, red flag, right there.

Anneliese Swingle: 15:10

And I think if we can actually look at ourselves for who we really are and hold grace for ourselves to just be in that trigger at that moment and allow whatever memory it's attached to because you know it's always attached to something to bubble up to the surface, then you can release it and you can just go poof. Okay, what was this really about? When there's clutter in my house, for instance, I feel unsafe. It was all about safety For you. When I feel triggered by having a drunk in my house. I feel like I have to modify my behavior, or I feel it's always attached to a feeling and it took you right back to your childhood. Well, I think it was sorry I did.

Blaire Stanislao: 16:02

Of course anger is part of it, right, but anger's not always there. But anger was there. But it was also because I felt powerless, because I couldn't do anything about it.

Anneliese Swingle: 16:14

There it is. I am powerless when I'm around someone that's drunk, cause you yeah, that's beautiful I am powerless. That's a huge belief that a lot of people carry and you know, I mean I dug on that multiple times finding where am I powerless? And for me it always comes out as anger. For some people, like for my spouse, it's always about frustration. For him, when he's frustrated, I know he's triggered. When I'm angry, I know I'm triggered and it really is getting to know yourself and the feeling you immediately go to. He immediately goes to frustration. I immediately go to anger. I discovered that from human design. I don't know if you've ever had that done, but that's fascinating.

Blaire Stanislao: 17:04

No one went to you pretty soon.

Anneliese Swingle: 17:05

Oh, oh. It's gonna show you so much about you, the astrology, in a different way, right? It's just a different way of looking at you. I'm like bingo, spot on.

Blaire Stanislao: 17:19

So I have one more. Let me share another one with you. Oh, please do, it's a little more complex. Yeah, I've been going through the ringer, okay. So I've been working on this summit, as you know, and I had spent about 12 to 15 days where I was just like go, go, go, go, go right, and I mean like I was trying to make sure I was following through, I was doing everything I was supposed to do. I was also having interviews and meetings and all this kind of stuff, and it's not that it's undoable, but it's like I have a I don't it's. I guess I probably have always dealt with an issue about worrying about. Am I gonna remember that that?

Anneliese Swingle: 17:56

detailed thing that I need to do?

Blaire Stanislao: 17:57

am I gonna remember it? So eventually I became a list maker, which works really well for me, but so and I do that but I was having so many things happen, and it wasn't just about the summit. There were some other things going on that I just I needed to attend to. I needed to do these things, and it wasn't really an easy way to say I don't wanna do that, I wanna take a break. And so eventually, what was happening is I was having more and more things come up that was like this is a problem. Okay, well, I'm gonna roll with the punches and go over here. Okay, I'm gonna roll over here.

Blaire Stanislao: 18:26

Well, one of those things was I didn't have internet, in the sense that I was trying to do summit interviews and I was essentially pulling off the hotspot on the phone. I used up all that Data and then we had an iPad that had service on it and I was like can I use that? And I'm looking at my schedule and I'm like and then I'm trying to figure out, I don't. Oh, I've done two interviews and now I'm using up all the hotspot data. I don't know how I can actually do this. I can't do it at the house because there's too much noise, and so it was just multiple things all at once and I knew I was getting tired. So even before this particular stage, I had already booked a massage this massage I just got and I had also booked a massage I just got and I had also booked a hair appointment just to like take time to myself and attend to me. It just be forced to not have to work. And both of those appointments I had to wait like a week or a week and a half, something like that.

Blaire Stanislao: 19:20

And so when the internet thing happened and I was still trying to do everything, I was not sleeping well, because when I get like this all, basically I wake up and then my brain is immediately on. I'm like, oh, I need to go do this thing. Well, I don't want to forget it. So the night before I had actually lost about four or five hours of sleep, like half the night gone, right. And so I'm trying to have a good attitude, which is really really hard when you're really tired, and I eventually get out the door, because I had an interview that morning and I just happened to look in the mirror and I was like, ooh, my lip looks swollen, and so now we're going to compound this. So now you don't have internet and you're really tired, and now your lip is swollen.

Blaire Stanislao: 20:02

I looked in the mirror and I was like, ooh, that's really swollen. I think you're going to be able to see that. And then I started feeling it and I was like, ooh, yeah, that might be a cold sore. Well, I didn't have anything with me, I didn't have a plan, I was busy doing stuff, so I had four hours where I wasn't able to do anything about it. I get home and by the end of that four hours, I'm like who, that's not one cold sore, that's like 12. And then of course, I'm thinking, oh, that means it's going to be like super gross and nasty and hurt a lot, and all of this.

Anneliese Swingle: 20:31

You're hard to chew tomato on my go.

Blaire Stanislao: 20:33

Yes, it was horrible. So the whole internet, this was all concurring at the same time, and so I had an interview that night and just in there my daughter needed to go shopping for clothes for a debate thing, and it's like it was just nonstop. And so I'm out with my daughter and I realized I can't do those interviews. Okay, that'll give me a break. I'll just tell them we have to reschedule and I just can't do it until I get internet. That's the bottom line. I can't physically do it. I also don't feel like doing it. And so I emailed everybody that was on the schedule for the week and basically all of them replied and most of them had rebooked within about an hour. Okay, and I'll tell you. You know, when you have those cold sores, you can kind of feel it, especially if you've had these. 100%, I know. You know the process, okay.

Blaire Stanislao: 21:19

So that's why I was like, oh my God, that's 12. And it's just the beginning. And so, within 30 minutes of me messaging anybody, I'm telling you the tingling that process stopped dead on a dime like Blair, that is so huge.

Blaire Stanislao: 21:39

Yeah, wow. Well now you can't always just drop everything Right when you have things like that, like I've done that with migraines before. I used to get migraines a lot more and I was preparing for teaching I think it was before school or something and my mom was at school with me and I didn't notice that I was really doing anything particular that was causing that would cause this. It was stress is what it was right. But I started to see the aura, which for me is like a 15 minute warning. So you have a visual disturbance and in 15 minutes you're going to have a headache from hell. So I saw the aura and I was at first. I'm always like, well, maybe I don't see that.

Blaire Stanislao: 22:18

And I'm just like okay, no, I'm having an aura and my mom said something to the fact of well, stop what you're doing or whatever what's causing it. And I was like I don't know what's causing it and I don't care, I don't like any of this stuff enough to have a migraine. I want to leave. And so I just up and left. I did not get the migraine.

Anneliese Swingle: 22:34

That is insanity. You know what Our bodies are so intuitive. If we would just tune in and listen, the ailment that's starting to boil. You stop two of them.

Blaire Stanislao: 22:48

Yeah, yeah, no. Well, I mean, that was years and years apart, but still. And then this week so the cold sore thing happened I had the resolution, which was wonderful. I went and went to the chiropractor and he does something called neuroemotional technique. Are you familiar with that? No, it was so cool, fascinating. I'm thinking I really want to interview him for this on the podcast.

Blaire Stanislao: 23:09

But essentially what it does is he does muscle testing. You know he's a chiropractor, so he's doing other things, but he's it is connected also to Chinese medicine and the Meridians Love it. So basically, you do muscle testing and you're kind of he's kind of trying to figure out is it an emotional thing, or is it a structural thing or whatever? And so a lot of times he'll say oh, this one's emotional, do you want to work on it? And of course my answer is always yes, I do, because I'm going to get better, of course. And so then what he does is he tests the areas and he says, okay, can you put these two like the topic let's say, one of them is money and a male friend in a sentence together, and that's it, that's all he says. So then you have to think about like what it is Okay.

Blaire Stanislao: 23:53

So I had we have one of those beds that like bends up, right. I have been loves it. It's been broken for two months, two or two and a half months. We finally get the thing fixed and he loves it.

Blaire Stanislao: 24:05

Well, when I moved in it's not that I didn't love it, but for a while there I was like, oh, I must feel like I'm not like stretching back out at night, you know, and I had talked to the chiropractor about this, and eventually it got to me, which was totally fine, it's not an issue. So we get the bed, it's up again and I'm like, oh, I think it's starting again, like maybe I just have to get readjusted to it. And I told him like my back was killing me this morning. And so he does this little test and he's like, oh, this is emotional. Do you want to deal with it? Yes, I want to deal with it. Okay.

Blaire Stanislao: 24:34

So I sat up, he did his test and it turned into a conversation I had with my husband about taking this dream interpretation course and essentially how I felt about the conversation, which was that I've never actually felt so much like an artist as I did when I had that conversation with him. Okay, and for me that's like it is. It's a negative thing, because if you are familiar with people who are very, very artistic, essentially they're like plagued with it, right, yeah, yeah, they can't. They had trouble functioning in the rest of the world, right? I have friends like this, and there have been numerous times that I'm like you know, I really love these people and I'm like how are you paying the bills? How?

Anneliese Swingle: 25:23

do you function on a daily basis? Yeah, do you have food? Do you drink water?

Blaire Stanislao: 25:29

And the amount of pressure that I feel, just worrying even just about one person this is why I just stopped doing it but just worrying about that one friend of mine who I'm like I don't know how you're going to do this when you don't have these things that support you anymore and like just me being okay with that, even for them, was really difficult. So for me to be, for me to feel like because he didn't make me feel that way, he just made an observation, right but I did feel like, oh, somebody sees that I have this artistic tendency that for some reason I think I've hid from everybody else, and so the chiropractor helped me work through that, like, well, why is that bad? Why is it bad to be creative? And okay, so we go through the whole thing, and then what they do is then he says, okay, well, we're going to look for an original event, because the always statement was it's safe for me to make money. That's what it was.

Anneliese Swingle: 26:25

Okay.

Blaire Stanislao: 26:26

And on the muscle test it was very clear and I was like I don't know what that is. That doesn't make any sense because you know. But essentially what that means is my nervous system is not corresponding with what my conscious self is saying yes, so he goes back to the original event and he does his old testing and it's like zero to 10 years, 10 to 20 years Okay, we narrow it down and it was at 28 years old, had to do with a male. What was going on? That made me feel. The same way I felt when I had that conversation with my husband about taking the dream interpretation course and he gets to the number and I'm like I was pregnant. That's what it was. So I was pregnant and it all comes down to I didn't feel like I was going to be able to handle physically. Yeah, you just talked about all the ailments that I have when I have stress, right, I didn't think I was going to be able to handle the pregnancy. It was rough on me.

Blaire Stanislao: 27:19

I like, I didn't. I didn't like pregnancy. It was not easy, I didn't. I didn't have anything clinically actually really bad, like I went in and said something to the doctor and he literally laughed at me, right. So it's really. You know, what I was having was not a big deal and I had heard other stories and those were really big deal. Mine was not, but it was hard on me, yeah, and I wasn't sure that I could handle it. So, with my son, when I was pregnant with my son, it was like I don't know if I can handle being pregnant and working and all this stuff, and it was the same feeling. Wow. But you do the work. And then he I don't remember what he oh, he does some stuff where he pushes on the meridian which hurts a lot sometimes. You know it's quite complicated. I probably will have him on if he's willing to do that, but it's really interesting. But then after you always test the same question, just see if it's cleared, yeah, so I love it.

Anneliese Swingle: 28:10

Yeah, oh, my God, I love it so much. Yeah Well, it's crazy how our body holds this and our mind doesn't know. You know, consciously we have no idea, but subconsciously it's there and it's not until it's triggered to allow you to go what is going on.

Blaire Stanislao: 28:30

But you have to say that because if you, if I, hadn't said to my mentor hey, this thing, I think, is a trigger, like I always said, I'm really pissed off and it's like a core guttural response. Yeah, which is funny because years and years ago this would have been in 2014, I moved and I had to go back to Florida to get some stuff and I had to get help, and I wasn't getting help from anybody who was there. It was very stressful for me, right? And this man that I was dating at the time got his little worker boy, who we always talked trash about, but his worker boy would help, okay. So he was going to have to drive a truck for me. So we had two vehicles I had my vehicle and he was going to drive this big truck and we had to drive an hour up to where I live to get this stuff. Well, we stopped to eat dinner and I'm it's my house, they're doing this for me. So, like I'm going to buy him dinner and I'm like, okay, I'll buy you a beer, it's not a big deal to have a beer.

Blaire Stanislao: 29:21

Well, this guy had been known for, you know, he kind of gets stuck somewhere he doesn't do. He's not really good at managing that kind of stuff. So he had a beer, he walked away from the table and started flirting with somebody at the bar and I couldn't get him to leave. And I'm like, okay, we're supposed to be moving all this stuff tomorrow. I'm really flipping out.

Blaire Stanislao: 29:41

So I called the boyfriend and I said this is what's happening and I'm really, I'm really really pissed. And so he got the guy to do this up. But I did notice even at the time, before I got involved in any of this stuff, I was like holy crap, I thought that me growing up with an alcoholic really wasn't that big of a deal and I had kind of learned to deal with it. Until I have to deal with another drunk in a situation where I needed them to do what they were supposed to do and, holy cow, talk about a guttural response like no, no, a thousand cuss words, no, you know, right, right, but I didn't know what to do with it then, you know, so I didn't actually exactly.

Anneliese Swingle: 30:23

You don't know it's even a thing until you start doing the work. You know the work, whatever that is called, and then you start realizing, wow, this is happening for me so I can heal it. And if I don't, it'll just keep coming back in different scenarios and different ways for you to look at it from a different lens. Until you see it for what it is and really see it. It will just keep showing up over and over again. And it's funny because that's kind of the story of my life with men we're picking the same man over and over and not figuring out. Why does this always happen to me? Well, it's not happening to me, it's happening for me, so I will quit doing the same thing over and over. You know, you bang your head against that same wall until you get a headache so big that you're like maybe I shouldn't bang my head against that wall.

Blaire Stanislao: 31:24

I don't know, that's a thought, or how do I approach this?

Anneliese Swingle: 31:27

differently. How can I? Should? I just bang my fist? I mean, you will try. You are so uncomfortable that you will do whatever it takes to get comfortable, and sometimes that is just sitting with this emotion. But I mean, I only started doing this work like actually three years ago, so I've been on what they call the fast train. I mean, I didn't even know this was a thing, because of course I thought I had it all figured out. Capricorn Rising.

Anneliese Swingle: 32:03

Anyway but I didn't. I was totally disregarding all my triggers, thinking everyone else was messed up and I had it figured out. That's when you can really sit and go guess what, annalisa, you actually don't. All of these things happening to you are triggers, so you can look at what it's really about.

Blaire Stanislao: 32:32

And you know, the ancestral part I find really interesting. I have not I'm not fully, or even halfway, wrapped my head around. I don't know what your experience is with that, but I've had. So I have thyroid issues. I've had a low thyroid for more than 20 years. I was actually on thyroid medicine Western right for 20 years and like about two and a half, maybe a little bit more years ago, I was like screw this there, it's not fixing anything. If you look into what the drug actually does, all it's doing is, like you know, basically steroiding it like put it on steroids so it works harder. That's not solving the problem, right. So I had just reached a point where I was like that's it, I'm done, I'm tired of this, and I you know it's either a proofs in the pudding. Do I believe what they say or do I not believe it? Do I believe in this natural healing or do I not believe it? And so I was like I'm going to do this. So I had a.

Blaire Stanislao: 33:28

They really got triggered by wanting to get some metal cavities out of my mouth and the dentist was like you need to go to the naturopath and have me do chelation. So I went to the naturopath. And the naturopath said well, what do you? Because it was a new client, right. And she said well, what is it that you want? And of course I was like, well, I'm going to just get answered a question. Well, what I want to be is off all medicine, yeah, be able to handle my life on my own. And so she did her normal things, which my experience was.

Blaire Stanislao: 33:55

A naturopath is very similar to just a regular doctor, but instead of prescriptions only, they also do supplements. So I but, to be fair, I haven't been to a whole lot of them, this was just one experience. But so she had like a food sensitivities test, what I've always wanted to know for real. Like I'd gotten my hair tested, it was much cheaper. And so she did a blood, a blood test, and this came back and it was like, holy crap, if I ate it, I had sensitivity to it, and if I ate more of it, it was higher and it's really defeating, right? Yeah, absolutely. So I had gotten to the point where I was like, okay, then I'm not going to eat that stuff. And then, of course, I'm like, well, what do I eat? I don't know what to eat. Okay, right. And so I was really hungry but I wasn't eating anything because I wasn't going to eat those things by golly. And somehow I had come across this person who did nutritional response testing. Have you heard of that?

Anneliese Swingle: 34:46

Actually no.

Blaire Stanislao: 34:48

Okay, so this is muscle testing. It's also based in Chinese, oh.

Blaire Stanislao: 34:50

I love muscle testing, cool. So basically you do muscle testing, they do some other stuff, but the main thing that I saw over about two years was muscle testing to see what's going on with your body, okay, and then they give you some supplements to support that and help you to change your diet and so forth. So through the two and a half years, first I wasn't on the thyroid mess and we go in there and she does the tests and she's really supportive and all that, and then my hair starts falling out and then I'm like, all of a sudden, I notice all the bald women and I'm like I don't really want to be bald.

Blaire Stanislao: 35:25

And she encouraged me and helped me, and so the Western doctors said, okay, you probably were on too much, but let's start it back because it is a little bit low. And so I think I took like four or five pills and then I went up going to the nutrition lady again and she was like well, you can take it if you want to take it, but if you want to heal this, it's going to be much easier if you get off the pill completely and you're going to have a difficult time, but we'll get through it and I think you'll be done in nine months or less. Okay. And I was like, okay, I'm going to do it. And I didn't really lose that much hair, but enough that I was like, oh, I don't like this. Yeah. So over the two years I changed my diet drastically and it's kind of frustrating because it's like a nonstop thing, right, Obviously yes.

Blaire Stanislao: 36:12

But I haven't been on thyroid medicine for a long time but I still have some troubles. Like I noticed it felt like it was really a lot better and then, I think, when I got married or moved in with my husband, it was like there was a shift again, which you know, that kind of stuff happens. You have a major shift in your life, that happens, and so then I was having more trouble again and I don't know. I continued to do work on that and so I asked several times on energy healing sessions to get information and a couple of weeks ago I actually got this one session that was like it was really hard for me to swallow. Actually, at the place where I met you, we did a quick session too, and she said the same thing, which is essentially, you're going to have to heal your thyroid, your throat chakra. Yes, you have to heal it, not only for you but for all in the reason. You're not your whole ancestry. Yes, and she said they got killed, like it wasn't just that you speak it. Yeah, they got murdered.

Blaire Stanislao: 37:10

And a couple of weeks later I have another energy session and this is my little energy guru lady and she's like oh, it's your ancestor, I'm seeing that somebody got stabbed. You got stabbed in a former life in your neck, but it didn't kill you and so you had to continue to live like this and through the healing. I was like okay, but I don't know what to do. And she was like look at you, exactly what you're talking about. You're not wanting to listen to the story. You need to listen to the story about your ancestor so that it can be a process. So by the end of that session I was still like, well, what in the bloody bleep do I do about ancestors? I don't even know that it's there. I want to heal us. But now, basically, I'm kind of like well, now this is a mission of mine, because it has to happen. Like I've got to get this fixed Right and I'm not there yet, right, like I still have to keep looking and figuring out how to do it and so forth. But the thyroid thing is just such a big deal and it's through the ancestors I know it's the I'm, my mother had it, I'm sure I'm grandmother had it, and then some of the stuff that we talk about.

Blaire Stanislao: 38:20

Through the other healings that I've done, I start to recognize I don't even notice that I'm setting the groundwork for putting on to my children these attitudes and approaches to life. So one one for me was I have a son and a daughter and if my daughter ever got repressed or pushed down in any way, I was like go fight for yourself right now. Go ahead, you know, go ahead and smack him, or go ahead and push somebody, or you know like. I mean not necessarily always the best sound device, but I felt, I've always felt like that's appropriate. If you need to do that, your girl, sometimes you have to be louder and more noxious to be able to get your to be able to be heard, okay, so again, it's about that throat chakra.

Blaire Stanislao: 39:12

So I didn't even realize that I was doing that. But that's the kind of stuff and I noticed that with my, with dealing with grief with my husband and preparing to grief for my mother was I didn't realize that I had taken on like, when I was about to, we had talked about getting married and I was outside shoveling or something and I thought to myself, okay, this is really going to happen. Okay, now it's time for me to start worrying about when he's going to die. And then I thought why do?

Blaire Stanislao: 39:42

I have to be like that Like why is that doesn't occur to others? There's a plenty of other people and these parents have had a very long happy life together and I'm like, what is that about? And then I started to recognize, because I'd done the work oh, that's the way my mother taught me and that's the way her mother taught her, and then actually on both sides. So I don't know, this ancestral stuff is still like a bag of worms. I had not yet figured out.

Anneliese Swingle: 40:07

This.

Anneliese Swingle: 40:08

This is so fascinating. You and I have walked in the same shoes in multiple lifetimes. I really do believe that I have thyroid issues. Cliff counsel delete had did the exact same thing as you did. I do not want to live on medicine my whole life. This is ridiculous. I don't see a difference being on it.

Anneliese Swingle: 40:29

So I went to a medical intuitive similar muscle testing. Take my thyroid medicine tour. And she goes you're allergic to this. Do you know? That was like could you just stab me in the gut a little harder and twist the knife? I've been on this freaking medicine for what I don't know 10 years probably, and it was naturally compounded and it was made just for me, suppose. Oh my gosh, I was so upset I'm like done, done, I'm done. Went through the same thing, started losing my hair because now my body has to adjust to what the assault that I was doing to it. But took all the supplements, changed my diet and then started really diving into what is hypothyroidism.

Anneliese Swingle: 41:21

What is the cause? You know, in theta theta healing, there's always a belief system attached to every single disease, right, ancestral. So I go back and I look at my life and here's this is so amazing. First of all, I have an unaspected mercury in my astrology chart right. Uh-oh, that's okay. Sorry about that. That was my next notification.

Anneliese Swingle: 41:48

So my whole life I'm told children are to be seen and not heard. Okay, so what happens to me? I'm a cheerleader in high school. I yell. I'm also a singer. I develop nodules on my vocal cords so now I can't sing anymore. Then I have a trampoline injury and I fracture my neck. Then I have a strep throat like my whole third grade. All of these things just accumulate, accumulate, accumulate, because they're always attached to a belief you were to be seen and not heard. So do not speak, do not use your voice. Then I become a group exercise instructor. Can't yell, the commands have to use a microphone to project my voice. All of these things keep pointing back.

Anneliese Swingle: 42:44

And then hypothyroidism and all of these things that are showing me you got to take care of your throat. Chakra Period Hands down. You got to solve this problem. So I do Past life regression so I could see how it was handed down and see now it's getting. All I'm trying to clear it. It's handed down generation to generation, where women were to be seen and not heard. I also saw where I was choked and drowned and it's always around my throat and, interestingly, I never could wear turtlenecks. I felt like, you see, it's all about throat chakra. And so I'm discovering all this through my past life aggression. How many times I had been killed for using my voice and speaking the truth and all of this stuff.

Anneliese Swingle: 43:46

And it's so interesting when you are shown on a whole level that you don't even know exists Ancestrally, you are able to say I now see, I release this, it no longer serves me, I integrate, I know how to end to it as possible, to speak truth on all levels, including the history level. Blah, blah done. And now my hair is thick and full and I don't have. I haven't had strep throat since and you know I go to the chiropractor regularly to make sure that you know my neck doesn't fuse because it was fractured. Yeah, things like that. Knowledge really is power and healing. The ancestral level can really show you how it keeps integrating in this lifetime so it can be healed.

Blaire Stanislao: 44:39

That's the thing. Actually, I had a conversation with my son about this last night because we got all into an addition to the drunk at my house my kids. They got on a debate trip and they loved it. They just you could just tell they just came home and they were going well. They spent like three quarters of a day doing this trip, right, and I knew they were going to be tired or whatever, but they I could see that something has shifted for them, like they really just like the social aspect, they also like the intellectual aspect, they like it all. And I felt like there was like a little bit of an attitude, kind of like maybe they had been around these other kids, it didn't have the same kind of restrictions or something. And so I addressed this with them, because I was already irritated about the drunk right and I was dealing with my trauma. So I'm like, oh, I'm fired up and ready to do this.

Blaire Stanislao: 45:22

So we wound up having this conversation. Of course, my son is not trying to do it to make me mad, but it does. And so we then we had another conversation, he and I by ourselves, and he was expressing his frustration about my new husband right, and I'm like hey, let me explain to you how this works and why he might be like this. And I and I'm not saying that you're wrong, but he's not wrong either and and he, he is like everybody expressed the real frustration about like basically, my husband says things for effect, like he goes really dramatic. We had asked him, we were talking about he wanted to have, like, a party, my son wanted to have a party, and so we're trying to plan logistics. But we have to ask my husband.

Blaire Stanislao: 46:01

My husband works at home.

Blaire Stanislao: 46:03

I thought he could go to work.

Blaire Stanislao: 46:04

And he says I actually presented it and like, really the most kind, open way, it's like you know, we were thinking if maybe you could work at the office for the afternoon, that they could have time to prepare. And he says, you know, when you, when you, when you tell me you got to get out of here, and he goes on and I'm like we did not say that, we didn't kick you out of the house, so that's the way he is, like he just he just says yeah, yeah, and so he'll get onto my son trying to help my son do things. And my son finally said to me he's like, well, you know, when he's so dramatic like that and it's obviously not true, I have a hard time taking him seriously Like, okay, that's totally fair, but he is there for an opportunity for you to be able to speak up and say I have a hard time taking you seriously when you're so dramatic, yeah, just like you're in my life irritating me, so that I can say to you, you know, like we're all right, oh my.

Anneliese Swingle: 47:03

God, it's so perfect, it's beautiful.

Blaire Stanislao: 47:09

It is amazing and it's a never ending story Never. Thanks for listening to this episode of mystical and infamous podcast with the Happy Lion Center. Send requests for topic discussions, questions and comments to podcast at happy lion center dot com. That's podcast at happy lion centercom.